Anger Management In Islam

Anger is a destructive emotion, as a fire which destroys our well-being, consumes our good actions, repels our friends and dear ones, frightens our children and forces the angels to report bad actions for the Heavenly Records. This is a dangerous rough road and no-one is devoid of it and it brings one close to the wrath of Allah. For the time being you should be extremely suspicious about anger in which form or situation what-so-ever. Be warned against it! Allah says:

 

وَلَمَّا رَأَى الْمُؤْمِنُونَ الْأَحْزَابَ قَالُوا هَٰذَا مَا وَعَدَنَا اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ وَصَدَقَ اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ ۚ وَمَا زَادَهُمْ إِلَّا إِيمَانًا وَتَسْلِيمًا

 

“When the believers saw the companies, they said: This is what Allah and His Messenger had promised us, and Allah and His Messenger spoke the truth. And it only increased them in faith and acceptance.” (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:22)

 

The good news is that when you are ready to confront the evil kind of anger within your soul, then you have already taken the first decisive step in fighting it. The evil kind of anger can be overcome by understanding and following the respective teachings of Islam. Remember that the real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath or anger. Allah says:

 

الَّذِينَ قَالَ لَهُمُ النَّاسُ إِنَّ النَّاسَ قَدْ جَمَعُوا لَكُمْ فَاخْشَوْهُمْ فَزَادَهُمْ إِيمَانًا وَقَالُوا حَسْبُنَا اللَّهُ وَنِعْمَ الْوَكِيلُ

 

“Those to whom the people said: Indeed, the people have gathered against you, so fear them. But it only increased them in faith, and they said: Sufficient for us is Allah and He is an excellent guardian.” (Surah Al Imran 3:173)

 

Anger is a natural feeling experienced by every person. Although it is natural, anger can have serious consequences for us as well as the people around us. When a person becomes angry, there is a high tendency for them to lose control and say things they will regret forever. That is why it is extremely important to stay calm and be quiet. Think about what you are about to do or say. The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.” Allah says:

 

أَفَمَنِ اتَّبَعَ رِضْوَانَ اللَّهِ كَمَن بَاءَ بِسَخَطٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَمَأْوَاهُ جَهَنَّمُ وَبِئْسَ الْمَصِيرُ

 

“So is (the one) who pursues (the) pleasure (of) Allah like (the one) who draws on (himself) wrath of Allah and his abode (is) hell, and wretched (is) the destination?” (Surah Al-Imran, 3:162)

 

If one of you got angry while standing then sit down, or if sitting down then lay down. We are convinced that the Islamic guidance is the best because it relates to all levels of human beings. Allah says:

 

وَمَن يَقْتُلْ مُؤْمِنًا مُّتَعَمِّدًا فَجَزَاؤُهُ جَهَنَّمُ خَالِدًا فِيهَا وَغَضِبَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَلَعَنَهُ وَأَعَدَّ لَهُ عَذَابًا عَظِيمًا

 

“And whoever kills a believer intentionally then his recompense (is) Hell, abiding in it forever and Allah’s wrath will fall on him and He (will) curse him and He has prepared for him a punishment great.” (Surah An-Nisa, 4:93)

 

Anger is one of several coarse qualities of the soul or heart, which have to be treated by Islam’s spiritual methods. To treat the (spiritual) disease you have to know its causes. Allah says:

 

تَرَىٰ كَثِيرًا مِّنْهُمْ يَتَوَلَّوْنَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا لَبِئْسَ مَا قَدَّمَتْ لَهُمْ أَنفُسُهُمْ أَن سَخِطَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمْ وَفِي الْعَذَابِ هُمْ خَالِدُونَ

 

“You see many of them taking as allies those who disbelieved. Surely evil (is) what sent forth for them their souls, that Allah became angry with them and in the punishment, they (will) abide forever.” (Surah Al-Maida, 5:80)

 

Anger is like poison. Within minutes it can destroy everything a man has built- marriages, brotherhood, and friendship. It can even lead to bloodshed. One should be conscious of these effects and be very careful with one’s choices when in a state of anger.

 

Anger gets out of control and turns destructive:
  1. Anger is a temptation of Shaytaan and deception of shaytan
  2. Anger is a strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure
  3. A violent passion excited by real or supposed injury
  4. Anger becomes a brute beast devoid of any sense
  5. Anger is a rage fierce, displeasure, passion
  6. Anger is a rage excited by a sense of wrong
  7. Anger is a rare physical pain, inflammation
  8. Anger snatches away the wisdom of man
  9. Anger is the root of all evils
  10. Anger is a destructive fire
  11. Anger is a secret weapon of man towards evils
  12. Anger is mad, hot-tempered, choleric, inflamed
  13. Anger’s result’s in the destruction of many noble qualities
  14. Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, and hostility
  15. Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person Iman (FAITH)
  16. Anger is a spark of fire that is always bursting. Anger is burning coal

Anger can destroy relationships, health, properties, and livelihood. This is because uncontrolled anger is from the Shaytan and he uses it to wreck lives. The goal is to purify the heart, free it from the oblivion of the rank of human beings. Allah says:

 

وَلَمَّا سَكَتَ عَن مُّوسَى الْغَضَبُ أَخَذَ الْأَلْوَاحَ وَفِي نُسْخَتِهَا هُدًى وَرَحْمَةٌ لِّلَّذِينَ هُمْ لِرَبِّهِمْ يَرْهَبُونَ

 

“And when was calmed from Musa the anger, he took (up) the tablets and in their inscription (was) guidance and mercy for those who [they] (are) fearful of their Lord.” (Surah Al-Araf, 7:154)

 

The causes which cause anger to grow are self-conceit, self-praise, jests and ridicule, argument, treachery, too much greed for too much wealth and name and fame. If these evils are united in a person, his conduct becomes bad and he cannot escape anger. Allah says:

 

وَمِنْهُم مَّن يَلْمِزُكَ فِي الصَّدَقَاتِ فَإِنْ أُعْطُوا مِنْهَا رَضُوا وَإِن لَّمْ يُعْطَوْا مِنْهَا إِذَا هُمْ يَسْخَطُونَ

 

“And among them (is he) who criticizes you concerning the charities. Then if they are given from it, they are pleased; but if not they are given from it, then they (are) enraged.” (Surah At-Tawba, 9:58)

 

Keep due distance from those ill-tempered people, regardless of the extent of their anger and the reason behind it. Don’t react in a manner that will signal hatred. Doing so will probably just exacerbate the anger and exasperate the situation remember Zun-nun when he departed in wrath: He imagined that We had no power over him! But he cried through the depths of darkness. Allah says:

 

إِنَّ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا يُنَادَوْنَ لَمَقْتُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ مِن مَّقْتِكُمْ أَنفُسَكُمْ إِذْ تُدْعَوْنَ إِلَى الْإِيمَانِ فَتَكْفُرُونَ

 

“Indeed, those who disbelieved will be cried out to them, “Certainly Allah’s hatred (was) greater than your hatred (of) yourselves when you were called to the faith, and you disbelieved.” (Surah Ghafir, 40:10)

 

Anger has, therefore, to be controlled since it is within the scope of man’s willpower to do so. Failure to exercise this volitional power is contrary to human nature. Reverting the whole situation into a pleasant tone will help lessen tensions. On the other hand, harsh words trigger retaliation. Watch your words because they can set the tone for an entire situation. Allah says:

 

Allah Almighty says in The Holy Quran:
  • So He made their deeds of no effect.” (Surah Muhammad, 28)
  • “The way of those on whom Thou hast bestowed Thy Grace.” (Surah Al-Fatiha, 6)
  • “those whose (portion) is not wrath, and who go not astray.” (Surah Al-Fatiha, 7)
  • “There is no god but thou: glory to thee: I was indeed wrong!” (Surah Al-Anbiya, 87)
  • “And among them are men who slander thee in the matter of (the distribution of) the alms: if they are given part thereof, they are pleased, but if not, behold! they are indignant! ” (Surah At-Tawba, 58)
  • “But those who dispute concerning Allah after He has been accepted,- futile is their dispute in the Sight of their Lord: on them will be a Penalty terrible.” (Surah Ash-Shura, 16)
  • “Is the man who follows the good pleasure of Allah Like the man who draws on himself the wrath of Allah, and whose abode is in Hell?- A woeful refuge!” (Surah Al-Imran, 162)
  • “The Wrath of Allah is on them: He has cursed them and got Hell ready for them: and evil is it for a destination.” (Surah Al-Fath, 6)
  • “Those who avoid the greater crimes and shameful deeds, and, when they are angry even then forgive.” (Surah Ash-Shura, 37)
  • They are neither of you nor of them, and they swear to falsehood knowingly.” (Surah Al-Mujadala, 14)

Emotions are temporary. Let yourself feel your emotions and they will pass. Managing anger requires paying attention to what you need, not ignoring the need or the feeling.  Recognizing the consequences of unexpressed anger can motivate to change it. Try to pinpoint the signs of anger early enough so you can express it without hurting yourself or the ones you love. You’ll be glad you did.Allah says:

 

وَإِنِّي كُلَّمَا دَعَوْتُهُمْ لِتَغْفِرَ لَهُمْ جَعَلُوا أَصَابِعَهُمْ فِي آذَانِهِمْ وَاسْتَغْشَوْا ثِيَابَهُمْ وَأَصَرُّوا وَاسْتَكْبَرُوا اسْتِكْبَارًا

 

“And indeed, I every time, I invited them that You may forgive them, they put their fingers in their ears and covered themselves (with) their garments and persisted and were arrogant (with) pride.” (Surah Nuh 71:7)

 

Anger in itself arises involuntarily. It is automatically activated. But acting by its demand is voluntary. Be strong and make your calm manner contain the situation. Be wise. Self-control is the cornerstone to curbing people’s anger. Allah says

 

وَيُعَذِّبَ الْمُنَافِقِينَ وَالْمُنَافِقَاتِ وَالْمُشْرِكِينَ وَالْمُشْرِكَاتِ الظَّانِّينَ بِاللَّهِ ظَنَّ السَّوْءِ عَلَيْهِمْ دَائِرَةُ السَّوْءِ وَغَضِبَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمْ وَلَعَنَهُمْ وَأَعَدَّ لَهُمْ جَهَنَّمَ وَسَاءَتْ مَصِيرًا

 

“And He (may) punish the hypocrite men and the hypocrite women and the polytheist men and the polytheist women, who assume about Allah an assumption evil. Upon them (is) a turn (of) evil, and Allah’s wrath (is) upon them and He has cursed them and prepared for them Hell, and evil (is the) destination.” (Sura Al-Fath 48:6)

 

On a final note, keep in mind that anger and reacting to anger does not make you a strong man. We must, therefore, be very conscious of the plot of the devil, and control our anger. There is a better reward for this in this world, and in the hereafter, In sha Allah. May ALLAH  give everyone the ability to practice’s upon what we read and give everyone Jannat (paradise).

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